Monster Friends Series: The Ghost

The Ghost. Have a friend who is always disappearing on you? Do you have a friend who expects you to be there for them but when it’s their turn they make excuses or ignore you. Ghost friends rarely put in as much effort into the friendship as their friends. They dump on people a lot but they don’t emotionally invest in their friendships. Similar to the vampire, they can manipulate you and use emotional triggers to do things for them.

“I wouldn’t ask if I didn’t need the favor.”

“I really hope you can come because I don’t think anyone else will.”

When it comes time for you to ask a favor, they have a number of excuses for you. Ghost friends act as if doing anything for anyone is some big sacrifice. If they do help you out, you will hear about it when they again need something.

“Remember that time I helped you?”
“I’ve been there for you.”

They don’t do  anything out of their heart. What’s more they often show little gratitude for the things people do for them. But tell them no once, and they won’t forget it. They won’t remember your good, but they will remember the one time you couldn’t help them out.

Ghost friends rely on people, and usually pick people pleasers or push overs as friends. Stand up for yourself and say no. They don’t appreciate people’s efforts so there’s no point in killing yourself for them.


Common characteristics of ghost friends

• Manipulating
• Users
• Clingy
• Self absorbed
• Ungrateful

Other monsters
The vampire
The gremlin
The werewolf

Monster Friend Series: The Gremlin

The gremlin. These are your two faced back stabbers. Gremlins have two sides: the really sweet, cute, fun side and the mean, spiteful, side. Most Gremlins are users. They find people who have what they want and attempt to take it. They are never real friends. Even the vampire can make some effort to be a friend but not gremlins.

The major problem with them is that by the time you see what they’ve done, it’s too late. They are nice to your face, while they sabotage you behind your back.

 Example, they’ll tell you they’re so happy for you and your new guy, while they plot to take him for themselves.

Because gremlins appear loveable to most people, it’s harder to get people to believe you when you tell them they aren’t actually nice people. It’s also hard to see it for yourself, because everything they do on the outside looks so sweet.

For me, they are the worst type of monster friends because they play games with you and make it difficult to trust people after they leave. You start to wonder if a person is really nice or if they are just a gremlin who is stabbing you in the back. But a major difference between a gremlin and an actual friend is that gremlins don't do something for nothing. They either want something directly from you, or they do it keep up the illusion of them being nice people. A good friend won't keep track of the nice things they do for you, but a gremlin will.

The main reason is because all gremlins are users. They won't waste their time trying to be your friend unless they can get something from you. They have highly envious natures and often seek out people who they "admire" or feel they can use to get ahead in some way. Couple this with their dishonest core and you get a friend who is really an enemy.

This dishonesty also includes any compliment they give you. Gremlins often seem like flatteres. They often praise people, or pretend to act very sweet, but it's an act to get you to trust and like them. This makes it difficult to trap them but keep this in mind: because everything they do is an act, gremlins have no real regard for your feelings. They may say one thing, but do another. They cannot commit real emotions to their words of praise or their actions, so they will either over exaggerate or they will give away the fact that they actually want something from you... "I love your dress! Can I borrow it sometime."

Another tip is that gremlins often try to steal attention and credit for themselves. If you have a friend who always seems to be flirting with the guy you like, or acts as if she did all the work on a project, you may have a gremlin in your life.

They are liars whose main goal to sabbatoge you somehow. Everyone is fair game for gremlins, so don't think you're a special case when you befriend one. If they cheated one friend, they'll cheat you too.

This is perhaps the best way to sniff out the gremlin. Watch how they treat others. Are they overly sweet to a person's face, but gossipy behind their back? Do they often compare themselves to others? Have other people complained about them?

 The best thing to do when you find out you’ve been back stabbed by them is to call them on it. They can’t stand having people know their true selves so walk away from them but let them know that their little act is up.


Common characteristics of a Gremlin Friend

• Decitful
• Manipulating
• Boastful
• Slandering
• Users
• Pressuring
• Overly nice
• Selfish

Other Monsters
The Vampire
The Ghost 
The werewolf

Monster Friend Series: The Vampire

 

  The vampire. This is the most common type of monster friend. The vampire emotionally sucks the life out of their friends. They themselves are void and hollow of feeling so they entice others to feel for them. The vampire is the friend that makes everything a big deal. They are usually clingy, stating that they need you and they act emotionally unstable. Vampires provoke. They start fights or use emotional triggers on their friends. “I can’t handle things, I want to die.” “You know I need you.” Vampire friends are usually negative, but they aren’t all over dramatic. Majority of vampires are “sweet” people who hook people into over-feeling for them. Vampires can also make you feel guilty or bad about something good.

You: I met this great guy

Them: I hope he’s not like the last guy you dated

They take your emotions away because they lack their own.

Vampires often need to have people around. They don’t attempt to solve their own problems and they get a kind of high from people. If you hear the term “I need to be around people. I can’t be alone” You may have a vampire in your life. The vampire will suck out all your emotions until you have nothing left to give. Then they either replace you or begin quilting you for it. “I thought we were friends, how can you leave me?”  

The best way to handle a vampire is not give into them emotionally. Remember, they may act overly emotional but in reality they are hollow. Thus, they feed off of other people’s good and bad emotions. The more you give into them, the happier they are. Don’t do it. Help them within reason and don’t let emotional triggers trick you into pleasing them. If your vampire friend is going through a really tough time, help them find a resource but don’t be that resource.

Common characteristics of a Vampire friend

• Complaining 
• Manipulation
• Guilt baiting
• Sympathy seeking
• Attention seeking
• Provoking, usually in a negative manner
• Dishonest 
• Moody
• Self absorbed

Other Monsters
The Gremlin 
The Ghost 
The werewolf

Greatness of God

 

“If you don’t see the greatness of God then all the things that money can buy become very exciting. If you can’t see the sun you will be impressed with a street light. If you’ve never felt thunder and lightning you’ll be impressed with fireworks. And if you turn your back on the greatness and majesty of God you’ll fall in love with a world of shadows and short-lived pleasures.”

—	John Piper

All you can eat

We laughed, Amy and I, as we prepared ourselves for the stack of sushi we're about to consume at. All you can eat, suddenly felt like all I'd ever eat. Our tummies say no more, but our mouths water at the menu as we look for another compilation to torture ourselves with. I stuff sushi larger than either my mouth or belly in me, while Amy slurps noodles that have turned cold. It's the company, not the sushi I was craving.




The sparkling bubbles from ginger ale tickled my noise, while they soothed my over stuffed tummy. I would have gulped down this drink even if my belly was blissed, but the ache gives me an excuse. Ginger ale gives me the giggles. It's something sweet for a girl that usually prefers things spicy. There really isn't much ginger inside, not like homemade, but the dancing bubble and fizzy fun make me and my tummy and I happy.




The Rainbow Bakery, that's the name that hosts these desserts at a sweet price. My eyes consume desserts far more than my mouth. If I could, I'd have a glass cabinet full of delightful desserts Cupcakes, tarts, and little pastries look so lovely behind the glass counter at the bakery. I wish they would could keep forever. These ones were tasty, but I've never had a sweet tooth. I love desserts for their cute charm, and the way they can round off a perfect afternoon.

Kiss me all over

Sun kisses from rays of summer sun make me dance in the garden just to remind myself to have fun. The kisses are innocent, just little pecks to say good morning darling. A kiss to say everything will be alright. The world is beautiful and bright, so let go of your cares.

Little rain drops kiss me in spring. They make me shiver, while they romance my palms. The kisses sprinkle through my air and stay with me long after the rain stops.

The fall wind passionately kisses my soul, passing over my lips, cheeks, rushing deep in me. The intensity sends me indoors, with cheeks blushed like a girl who has never been kissed before.

December doesn't want to left out. It sends me snowflakes that kiss my noise. Sometimes it's bashfull, only giving me a few flakes to tell me it likes me. Other times, it acts as if it can't bare to lose me sending kisses over me that leave an unforgettable impression.

Kiss me fast

kiss me slow

kiss me all over

don't let me go

Asos Kiss Print Top// Asos Lace Shorts// Ardene stockings

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Seasons Box Review

 

The seasons box is a beauty box company that ships a variety of full size items to your door for a monthly subscription of 29.95 plus 4.95 shipping. What I like about this box is that every item in the box is full size. This is a nice change from other boxes that offer sample sizes, often not big to truly decide if you would purchase the item. Another thing I liked about this box is the types of products. It's not just a box of eye shadow and lipstick. Check out the pictures below to see what was in the February's Seasons Box. 

The box came with a little card. I did not read it, but they usually greet the buyer and detail the items inside of the box. 

 

Organic Dreams Rose Water: Smells like a lovely garden of roses.

Bambu Earth Salt Glow Sugar Cookie Body Polish: Has a lemon sweet scent.

Kaia Naturals Juicy Bamboo Facial Cleansing Clothes: I was excited to see this product because I love them. They work great to get the dirt and makeup off. 

 

Galarie Au Chocolate Cappucino Chocolate Bar: This fair trade chocolate has a very strong coffee flavor, but it is good in small amounts or mixed with baked good.

 So far, I think this is a great "sample box" company. I loved all the items they sent out in February. They are more affordable than other companies that still send out mere samples and they provide full sizes of a varitey of products. This gives you a better opportunity to decide if you would repurchase the product again. 

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