The vampire. This is the most common type of monster friend. The vampire emotionally sucks the life out of their friends. They themselves are void and hollow of feeling so they entice others to feel for them. The vampire is the friend that makes everything a big deal. They are usually clingy, stating that they need you and they act emotionally unstable. Vampires provoke. They start fights or use emotional triggers on their friends. “I can’t handle things, I want to die.” “You know I need you.” Vampire friends are usually negative, but they aren’t all over dramatic. Majority of vampires are “sweet” people who hook people into over-feeling for them. Vampires can also make you feel guilty or bad about something good.
You: I met this great guy
Them: I hope he’s not like the last guy you dated
They take your emotions away because they lack their own.
Vampires often need to have people around. They don’t attempt to solve their own problems and they get a kind of high from people. If you hear the term “I need to be around people. I can’t be alone” You may have a vampire in your life. The vampire will suck out all your emotions until you have nothing left to give. Then they either replace you or begin quilting you for it. “I thought we were friends, how can you leave me?”
The best way to handle a vampire is not give into them emotionally. Remember, they may act overly emotional but in reality they are hollow. Thus, they feed off of other people’s good and bad emotions. The more you give into them, the happier they are. Don’t do it. Help them within reason and don’t let emotional triggers trick you into pleasing them. If your vampire friend is going through a really tough time, help them find a resource but don’t be that resource.
Common characteristics of a Vampire friend
- Guilt baiting
- Sympathy seeking
- Attention seeking
- Provoking, usually in a negative manner
- Self absorbed