True Satisfaction

Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment. Full effort is full victory. 

 

Satisfaction réside dans l'effort, non pas dans la réalisation. Plein effort est une victoire complète

~Mahatma Gandhi

Sweater: Thrift
Bag: Thrift
Bangle: Off The Wall
Skirt: Forever21

Tuesday Treasures

Today is a special day, but tomorrow is even more special because it is leap day and I love the 29th of February. It reminds me of my childhood and how it was Pochacco's birthday (a character created by saniro) I always wanted my birthday to be on that day simply because of how exciting it would feel to wait 4 years before you could celebrate your true birthday. Happy birthday to all the leapers, I hope your day is blessed.

the1727.com

If I could I would purchase my entire wardrobe from the1727.com. The clothes are so delicate and feminine. I wrote more about it here

Irregular Choice Women's Abigails Party Pump

Charm Necklace Rhinestone and Pearl Necklace Vintage Turquoise Bead Pearl Chain - Sweet Charming

window shopper

window shopper by ladyadelaide featuring cropped capri pants

Acne polyester shirt
$250 - lagarconne.com

Double breasted trench coat
$28 - everbuying.com

Acne cropped capri pants
£210 - brownsfashion.com

Yves Saint Laurent patent leather pumps
£550 - harveynichols.com

ASOS body bag
$36 - asos.com

Oscar de la renta jewelry
$1,150 - net-a-porter.com

Friends Without Benefits

We spend time with people for a number of reasons. Sometimes we ourselves can't pinpoint a reason but we enjoy the person's company too greatly to feel a need to analyze why we are friends with them (I personally love when I'm happy being around someone but don't know why). Sometimes we know exactly why we let that person in our lives. I had a friend who shared an interest in arts and culture, and became the person I would go see plays with. We didn't have much in common outside of this interest.

There are times however, when a friendship offers no benefits. Spending time with the person doesn't make you feel enthusiastic or happy. You don't come away after seeing or talking to them feeling like your day is improved. You may no longer have things in common. Or you may feel drained at the very idea of even having to spend time with them. It's not that there's anything wrong with you or the person, but the friendship itself is no longer beneficial to you.

Both parties need to find value in a relationship in order for it to be positively maintained. But if your friendship is not offering you anything, you will be less inclined to want to keep that person as your friend.

It's usually a personal feeling if you are in a unbeneficial friendship. You simply feel unhappy or dissatisfied. But sometimes you don't know why. You know you don't want to talk to the person, but you're not sure why. Below are some common reasons for why people pull out of friendships.

• You no longer value the same things ie. you're more focused on school and your friend wants to party and meet people
• Your friend offers too much advice rather than just listening ie. you call to vent and it turns into therapy session where your friend tells you what they assume is wrong with you
• You're bored. ie you always do the same things and talk about the same things and it's become too routine
• You can't see eye on subjects. ie a simple discussion turns into a debate on whose way thinking is more correct
• You always feel you have to help 
• Your friend doesn't support your goals and dreams
• You went a considerable amount of time without talking and have gotten used to them not being around

You can add value back into a friendship. If you're bored try suggesting new things to do. If you know your friend and you argue over certain topics avoid those subjects, or try seeing things from their perspective. Doing this will give you some new insight. But if your frienship offers you very little and you don't see any way to feel happy in it then you may have to let it go. If something isn't adding positively to your life, it really has no business being there.

A Stylish Soul

 When I shop it isn't to be an icon of beauty, or wow passer byers. I simply don't care about a lot of worldly goods other people do. I like simplicity. I'm more found of sun sets than gem stones.

I live in the world, yes. I go out and do what other girls do. I like things, looking at things, buying things, but I don't seek a deep connection with these things.

I don't want to be first in line for any gadget. I don't feel like a better person if people approve of the stuff I own. It's just stuff. My clothes, shoes, bag are just stuff. I'm starting to feel like I have too much stuff.

Yet I keep shopping.

What is the reason for this? It's what humans do I guess. But it's not what spirits do.

It's the spirit part of me that I value the most. That is what I want to look good. If I am too be really beautiful, truly stylish, then I should think more of the spirit than the body.

The spirit isn't dressed in fine jewels, but fine feelings such as peace, love and humility. The spirit doesn't seek out the latest trends, but instead the balance and oneness felt by giving yourself to everything beyond earthly desire.

I don't value my skirts; they don't bring peace or joy. I value my soul. I value God. I value what no shop on earth can sell  me.

xox thank you for stopping by

Skirt: Yesstyle
Top: Thirtstore
Gloves: Gift
Bag: Aldo

Moments of my day Feb 22

You wake up, thinking the day will be like any other and suddenly something happens to change it...like winning a contest. Mid morning, I recieved a message notifying me that I was the winner of a contest held by a youtube  member. I'm never lucky in contests, so I was more than excited when I found out I won.

It's amazing how winning something, having something good happen to you, makes the whole day sit on an optimistic and postive note. I felt lucky throughout the day.

Simply being to able wakup this morning with little pain, a roof over my head and a family makes me lucky or rather blessed, but we so often take these things for granted. I was more excited about winning something. Because for that moment it was as if fate chose me instead of anyone else. But fate chose me all day long, all month long.

 I'm still here, while other are not. I have friends and a family, while others don't, and I am safe, while many others are praying to be rescued.

We forget the mundane are the significant things in our life; the things that we assume are natural and everyday, like checking text messages (which is not at all mundane since in order to do so you must have a cell phone and that is a luxury in itself). Even if I had not won the contest I still would be considered a very lucky girl.

{Sorry I do not have a pic of my day but I thank you for reading xox}

Wandering and wondering

I took a long walk down a busy street, letting faces pass without looking. I let the noises raid my inner and took in the scents of city life. Wandering and wondering how the world became this way; it's so mechanical. Even me, walking down these paved cemented lanes am robotically fixated on getting to my destination. I then remember I have no real destination. I'm simply walking. I'm walking because everyone else around me is walking and I make the assumption that they're going somewhere so I too pretend my life is important enough to need me to meet some destination. But what if they're like me-- going nowhere--just trying to look busy and failing to look around them at all the life that is waiting to be discovered among the mechanical mayham.